Wednesday, January 30, 2008

Sleeping to Success

Since the boys are now playing a little b-ball, we thought we'd let them stay up to watch the K-State / KU game tonight. Little did we know Thomas would get so excited about it - or that K-State would actually pull it out!

Tom was jumping around, cheering each time the Cats made a basket and he got made each time there was a foul called. He was just loving the action!

Finally, we got him to sit down to cuddle (almost an hour later than usual...) and as soon as he put his head down, he was OUT. He wanted to fight it, knowing he'd miss the game as soon as he slept. Too cute!

When I picked him up to carry him to bed, he tried to fight me. He keep trying to get back on the porch to "finish the game momma..." I told him it was over and the Cats won. "But mom,I want to waaaaaaaaaatch. oh. they won? it's over? ok." and then he went back to dead weight. It would have still been cute, but my arms were killing me! :)

All in all, in was a nice quiet night at home. Boys were happy to watch the game with us and daddy was happy his Wildcats won. What more could a mom and wife ask for in an evening? Besides a glass of wine and some guilt-free chocolates of course! ;)

Alarms for the Addle-Brained Mom

I was randomly searching for something else today and came across these WONDERFUL little gadgets. I believe mom here will need to get one of these little do-dads to encourage my butt to get out of bed before the children. Both are available from Urban Outfitters.

Flying Alarm Clock

This happy do-dad will literally get you out of bed - or drive you insane if you refuse. According to the description, once the alarm goes off, the propeller piece will FLY OFF and run around your room. Doens't sound so bad, right? Wait for it...yes, it's the KEY to turn off the piercing alarm! You must retrieve the propeller and fit it back into the base to shut it up. Gets your body moving and brain thinking - at least enough to not allow return to easy sleep!

The Runner


This happy looking guy will probably tick you off quickly. If you hit snooze two times, he will perform a kamikazi move and JUMP.OFF.YOUR.TABLE! Literally throw himself off the edge and run around your room until you catch him and silence him. He would probably be taking his life into his own wheels should he do this around our cat, but it would get me up for sure - either to shut him up or because I'm laughing WAY to hard.

Got a great do-dad like this? Let me know - I could use ideas to get me up and going every day!

Impossible

I got this video from a friend of mine and couldn't resist posting. I love magic and this was just SOOOOO cool. Have a smile today!

Sunday, January 27, 2008

Time with Travis

Today I had a rare occurrence - time with only ONE twin. since it was such a beautiful day outside, I suggested the boys go out play (I honestly was trying for 15 - 30 minutes of peace for myself). Travis jumped at the idea and was dressed and out the door in a flash. Thomas showed no interest and simply went on playing Hot Wheels.

A few minutes went by and I peeked out the window to check on Travis. I have a compulsive need to check on them every 2 minutes when they're outside, especially when only 1 is out there. We have a HUGE backyard that is completely enclosed, but I fear losing them whenever they're out of my direct contact and it's a fear I deal with as best I can.

I found myself smiling out how he didn't care if he was out there alone - he was running in circles and just generally being a little boy. And I decided I HAD to join him. Forget the laundry, the dirty dishes, the messy house, the sleeping husband and the content boy IN the house. I wanted to play with that happy little boy OUTSIDE. So, I did!

For 30 minutes, he and I danced in the sun, dragged branches to the burn pile, raced through the muddy yard, played in the play house, swung (he tried to push me and THAT was funny), and we even had a snowball fight (60 degrees and just a little snow left, but enough for the two of us!). But best of all we TALKED. About what he did and did NOT like in school. About Thomas. About nothing. About how he WANTS to be a good boy, but it's hard sometimes. It was everything and nothing. I even took him to the side of the house and showed him where I wanted to put in a secret rose garden since we moved in 11 years ago. He asked me why I'd never shown him that before and I told him it was my secret place and I finally wanted to share it with him. That made him smile the biggest smile I've seen on him in such a long time!

Eventually, he got bored with me though and ran back inside. But, the rest of the day he was SO much nicer. And quieter. With less fighting and less back-talk. He was just such as sweetie. For awhile he was just my little boy again - not one of the terrible twins. and every once in awhile, he'd catch my eye, smile and give me a big wink. It was SOOOOO worth it!

So - new resolve - spend at least some time each week with EACH of the twins separately. I can usually do this with Emily no problem - retail therapy works not only for cancer survivorship but also for mother-daughter relationships! And sometimes I can get in a little time with at least one of the boys. But good quality time with both of them individually is something I'm going to have to plan and work on. Because I finally realize how much they need it - and so do I!

The Russell Girl - Mom insights

CAUTION: Spoilers may lie within. Read at your own risk...

The hubby and I watched the newest Hallmark Hall of Fame movie tonight, The Russell Girl, starring Amber Tamblyn. Now, as a quick aside, I'm really surprised he stayed up for it, and about 3/4 of the way in I told him as much (I thought it would be a lilttle too "touchy-feely/chick-flicky for him). His simple reply - "I wanted to see it, too.". Ok. News to me, but very cool. And no elaboration was forthcoming, so I took it as face value. He's a surprising guy sometimes!

On to the movie...

In many of my Biblee-stufy classes, it usually comes out that God sometimes puts you through things so that you may be an example or a comfort to others going through the same thing. This movie was a shining example of that!

Essentially, Sarah Russell (Tamblyn) did something as a teenager that haunted her well into her 20s. It also subjected her neighbors to emotional turmoil and no one ever really talked about it in either family. The neighbor mother essentially fell to pieces - both in the past and when Sarah came home. But, she eventually found her footing again - just in time to help Sarah's family with their new troubles.

It was, at times, as if everything was happening just in time to move the story along and was of course very Hallmark-y, feel good, all's well the ends well sort of thing. But, the point was still made. The neighbor mother got through the trouble just in time to explain and help Sarah's mother.

Sometimes it seems like a platitude, but God really DOES have a reason for putting you through bad times. Sometimes it might be just so you can understand the good times better. Or, it might be so you can be an example to other of what NOT to do (I personally feel this is where I usually fall!). And even more so, it's so you can help someone else move positively through the same situation.

At this point, I have to bring up my mom (and hopefully don't embarass her too much. Sorry mom - you are a great example here).

Many years ago, she and I were in a car accident. That was followed by another one 6 months later just with her. Same van, same road, almsot the same type of accident and she broke the same foot/ankle. There was a LONG healing process (and many hours of her and me watching Ice Castles but that's another story!). Eventually, the troubles she had with that leg ended with a below-knee amputation.

This amputation meant learning to drive left-footed (thankfully she's already right-brained with being left-handed so this may not as been as hard as it could have). It also meant years of limping and additional surgeries, troubles with broken legs (the prosthetics) and less-than-helpful orthopods. But, that doesn't stop her. She drives everywhere (although I haven't convinced her to drive cross-country yet!), she works full-time, she sings in the church choir, volunteers, goes on LONG shopping trips with yours truly, etc. She's great!

But, beyond dealing with her own troubles, she does more than that. With her new husband, she helps direct the Ohio Wheelchair Games. She's willing to discuss her situation with anyone who shows interest - she doesn't scorn them for being curious about something so many people don't have a clue about, but discusses it with frankness and a highh sense of humor. She's had a good laugh over "scaring" a lady at a swimming pool where she had left her leg in her jeans on a lounge chair while she took a dip (I still love that story!). She's had good cries with anyone who has difficult times or troubles and never "one ups" them on it (would never think of making such statements as 'you think that's bad? I lost my leg!'). I was even told a story by my grandmother where a minister talked with mom for quite a while after running into her at a mall and just being so touched by her and her story and who she is. She hasn't let something that is obviously, in-your-face, debilitating stop her from enjoying life or helping other.

Now, take a minute to think about your life. What negative situation have you overcome? What sadness have you turned into happiness? What door closed and subsequent window opened? And think of how you can channel that into helping others. How can you articulate that into a positive story of hurt and help?

Wednesday, January 23, 2008

Moments for Myself - 23 January

The imagination should be allowed a certain amount of time to browse around.

- Thomas Merton, Moments for Myself, Daily Calendar

Tuesday, January 22, 2008

Moments for Myself - 22 January

You will find as you look back upon your life, that the moments when you have really lived are the moments when you have done things in the spirit of love.

- Henry Drummond, Moments for Myself, Daily Calendar

Monday, January 21, 2008

Future Civil Rights Leaders

Happy Martha King Junit Day! At least, that's what Travis says. We're having trouble getting him to remember that Martin and Luther are two separate words. But, he was really excited about today and what he learned about the famous MLK, Jr in school. In the Kindergarten-water-downed version of history, Rev. King simply told us to be nice to one another no matter what color we are.

I know Travis learned the lesson based on his comments while we watched Bring It On Again: In It To Win It (that's a WHOLE different story!). The one African-American girl was up in the face of one of the blond rivals (this is a recurring theme in the Bring It On Series...). Our conversation went something like this:

TV: [fighting words and attitudes going on]
Travis: Uh-huh. That's not what he meant!
Me: Not what he meant? Honey, those are both girls.
Travis: No momma, Martha. That's not what he meant!
Me: Martha? Martha who? And Martha is probably a girl.
Travis: (exasperated) You know momma! Martha King Junit.
Me: (taking a moment to resolve THAT one in my mind - the "King" part and the date helped a LOT) Oh! Martin Luther King Jr.?
Travis: YES! (really happy that I finally understood him!) That's not what he meant!
Me: What did he mean?
Travis: That it doesn't matter that they're different colors - they should work together!
Me: You're right honey - they should. Let's watch and see what happens...
....
(later in the movie, toward the end)
Travis: See, he was riiiiiiiiiight!
Me: (engrossed in the cheering) Who was right honey?
Travis: Martha!
Me: Um...Martha? (light bulb moment while I remembered previous conversation) OH! Martin Luther. How was he right?
Travis: See, everyone is working together and getting along. It doesn't matter what they look like, they do it better together! And they're really GOOD!

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My son - the future Civil Rights leader.....or future cheerleader? Anyway, Happy Martha King Junit Day!

Wednesday, January 16, 2008

Selected Shorts

Need a little "pick-me-up" while you're walking or working? Tired of the same music over and over? Don't have time to read but love a good story? Try out this podcast!

http://www.npr.org/rss/podcast.php?id=510202

I just found it today through iTunes Store and I LOVE it. To test it out, listen to the "Postcards from the Edge" edition from 12/24 and listen to "Conversations with My Dogs" - too funny!

Unfortunately, there's only a few to get you started, but they will have a new one each week. Something to look forward to at least!
You can check out the rest of the site as well using this link: http://www.symphonyspace.org/shorts

Tuesday, January 15, 2008

Moments for Myself - 15 January

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope.

- Romans 15:13 NIV, Moments for Myself, Daily Calendar

Thursday, January 10, 2008

School Rules

Now, I understand the need for rules, especially in schools. But, I think there needs to be some leniency or judgement call ability on the part of teachers and the parents.

Today, Travis got sick right after lunch. He's always had a bit of reflux and has a serious allergy/sinus thing going on right now. Combine that with eating too much too fast at lunch and you get a kid who threw up in his lunchbox today. As soon as he cleared his tummy, he was FINE. Bouncing off the walls, crazy kid FINE. But, that made no difference to the school.

So, at 12:30pm, I pick him and his brother up. Now, my thought was that it was easier to just take Tom home with me, since they were really in the "daycare" portion of their day (a rant on half-day kindergarten to come later...) and it made more sense then go back for him 4 hours later (that part of school doesn't end until 3:50!). Made sense AT THE TIME. 30 minutes later, I was kicking myself.

Don't get me wrong. I love both boys and they're both pretty good kids. They just really need a break from one another. And we need a break from them together as parents. They're learning that together they are harder to discipline and control. A lot harder. Alone, they are amazingly wonderful little boys - loving, listening, and QUIET. Together, they are a run-through-the-house, weapons-from-Legos-making, insanity-causing stampede. It literally sounds like there are 10 kids here when they're playing together - and fighting together sounds like the chimp house at the Zoo!

But I digress. This whole day wouldn't have bugged me if he had actually been sick. If he had a fever or was in any manner showing any sign of illness, I would so love picking him up and tucking him into the couch with a movie, a Sprite and some crackers. But, he threw up just a little (what was said to be mostly mucus-y) and was ready to go again!

If the teacher and I could have had a say in what was going on with MY child, instead of following some arbitrary rule, he would have stayed at school and learned something today. He and his brother wouldn't have fought for hours. They wouldn't have had to stand in the corner so many times there's a permanent nose print there. Oh, and my day would have been much happier, too - and much healthier.

Oh well - tomorrow is Friday. Whoo. Hoo. I know most people look forward to weekend as more stress-free and relaxing. Me, however? It 2 1/2 days of pure kindergarten insanity. Kindergarten teachers hold a special place in my heart as they do a job that is very much needed in society and is very hard to do. Well, they are special to me except when they send the munchkins home early! =)

Wednesday, January 09, 2008

Moments for Myself - 09 January

Go forth seeing adventure. Open your eyes, your ears, your mind, your heart, your spirit and you'll find adventure everywhere...Think of whatever you are doing as an adventure and watch your life change for the better.

- Moments for Myself, Daily Calendar

Tuesday, January 08, 2008

Career Audit

I read this article from the KC Busincess Journal today. I won't post myanswers here (think of it as pleading the fifth) but I think it's a good idea to look over these questions and consider them honestly. It may not necessarily mean you need to leave your job, but just that you need to reevaluate your position and how you respond to it. Happy auditing...

2008 Accountability

I have started a secondary blog where I hope to have other authors join me! It's an accountability log for whatever you may need to be held accountable for in 2008. Resolution, commitment, promise - whatever you want to call it. It's just something you want to change in 2008 and need someone else's help in doing so. Check it out, ask to be an author and move your dream along.

Here's to a GREAT 2008 and happy trails for everyone!

Thursday, January 03, 2008

Anger Management

Lately, Travis has been on a tear. Nothing seems to make him happy for long. He'll laugh and then turn instantly mad. For no reason. We've been working on trying to get him to curb his anger and think about what upset him and what would be the right response, but it doesn't seem to last long.

We think part of it is Thomas. He knows just how to push Travis' buttons and the second our backs are turned he "attacks". Doesn't really "do" anything like pokle him or really even directly talk to Travis. He just starts saying things under his breath to undermine what Travis was saying, or (and this is bugging EVERYONE) tries to finish EVERYONE'S sentences or say the words with them. Like the "twin-speak" thing, but all.the.time.

I'm of the mind that 1st grade might be the time to separate them, but dad thinks that might still too early. But, if they keep after each other this way, it might be necessary or they won't survive to see 2nd grade! Honestly, I'm just hoping they finish Kindergarten without any major blowups in school.

Moments for Myself - 03 January

Celebrate the good you have done. Remember the time when you were in the right place at the right time and said the right thing? Or made the perfect gesture? Remember the look on the other person's face? Or the sincerity in the note she sent? Whatever it was, take a quiet moment to pat yourself on the back. And keep up the good work.

- Moments for Myself, Daily Inspiration Calendar

Wednesday, January 02, 2008

Moments for Myself - 02 January

I want first of all...to be at peace with myself. I want a singleness of eye, a purity of intention, a central core to my life... I want, in fact - to borrow from the language of the saints - to live "in grace" as much of the time as possible.

- Anne Morrow Lindbergh, Moments for Myself, Daily Inspiration Calendar