Just Say "Yes"

Every once in awhile I like to have a non-Mommy day with my boys. A day where we just do whatever their little hearts desire (within reason) and I don't fret too much about money or properness or what anyone else thinks. Today was one of those days:

We started with an easy wake up then headed out for donuts. Krispy Kreme is definitely one of those things I love but they don't necessarily love me. And I always forget I'm not really big on their coffee. But, they had a new Banana Cream donut that was delish!

From there we made a "mommy stop" at Sears and trade in 4 pairs of ripped jeans for new untorn jeans. I LOVE the Sears KidVantage program. Absolutely love it - especially the wear-out guarantee. If you don't know about this program, you HAVE to check  it out. It save so much money, especially on jeans for twin boys!

While at Sears we found these great fedora hats for the boys. With their bright blue eyes and slender frames they could be Old Blue Eyes himself at 9 years old. I started calling them my Rat Pack (and sometimes made it my Brat Pack). I also thought they could be the fate-guys from "The Adjustment Bureau". :)

We headed over to Cinemark for a matinee - $4 tickets make them probably the cheapest around KC. We were so early the ticket booth wasn't even open yet! We had some time to kill, so we hit the arcade there, which seemed to eat more quarters than let us play games but still fun. We hit the concessions and got a large popcorn, drinks and Skittles - gotta have Skittles IN our popcorn sometimes. :)

While most people were there to see Hop today, we settled in for Diary of a Wimpy Kid: Rodrick Rules. I wasn't really looking forward to it, but it was surprisingly entertaining. There were a lot of shared laughs and even a few adult-only laughs. Boys are already looking forward to the next one.

After the movie, we hit up the Half Price Bookstore. Since I got my Kindle it's been awhile since I looked at a real book! I didn't get one but the boys both picked up a Will Solvit book. They really seem to gravitate towards series books, which makes it easier sometimes.

From there we had to do some regular errands, like visiting the grocery store. We grabbed stuff for dinner and the makings for chocolate pudding pie (which was YUMMY). While we were there we found some cool $1 sunglasses, which transformed the boys from Rat Pack cool to Blues Brothers crazy.

Back at home, we settled in to watch Tangled which we had picked up from Red Box. That was SO cute! The boys liked it "except for all that singing". :) When it was over they said it was great so I teased them about liking a "Disney Princess movie". They hit the Wii while I made dessert and then dinner. Just before we ate we started their Magic Rocks aquariums - they're already looking cool and we'll finish them tomorrow.

After dinner we settled into Liar Liar then attacked the chocolate pudding pie (with French Vanilla whip cream). Just before bed, we read a few chapters of Matthew in their new "Super Heroes Bible" (NIrV). This Bible is really nice because it's written in a words they can usually understand and it adds really cool "super heroes" callouts (and Not! Super Heroes like Herod and Lot). The boys asked me to start reading them the Bible every night and this one is helping us stay on track.

All in all, it was a good laid-back day. Limited fighting and lost of silliness. Probably spent more money than I should have, but that's always a part of Yes day.

The biggest downfall to "Yes" day? Having to return to being a regular mom tomorrow. Hopefully they remember how much fun today was and aren't so argumentative for a few days. :)

Texting and Driving Law in KS

There's a lot of buzz recently regarding the new Kansas law dealing with texting and driving. If you haven't heard of this yet, essentially it states that if you are operating a motor vehicle and a cop spots you with a cell phone and you're obviously not making a phone call you could get a citation for $60 (plus any court costs) for texting or emailing. This citation can potentially affect your insurance rate as well.

The two biggest questions I've read/heard regarding this new law are: How is texting any different from making a phone call? AND How is texting any different from other distractions, like eating or putting on make-up?

For some reason, a lot of people have asked ME these questions, maybe because I work for a company that makes mobile websites. Whatever the reason, I figured I'd post my answers once and send everyone here to read them. :)

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HOW IS TEXTING DIFFERENT FROM MAKING A PHONE CALL

First, try these timed scenarios (pretend your computer keyboard is your steering wheel and the monitor is your windshield if you're in front of a computer; put this away until later if you're driving your car). Start from your default view when you first open your phone.

1. Make a phone call (don't have a complete conversation, just start a call). 
2. Read a regular text message.
3. Send a regular text message.
4. If usual for you, read AND respond to a text message together.
5. Read an email message (if you do this on your phone)

I can almost guarantee that #1 was the fastest thing you did.

THAT'S the answer to the first question. Making a phone call takes less time and therefore takes your eyes from the road and your hands from the wheel for a shorter period of time. (To me this is basic logic, but a lot of people have asked that one.)

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HOW IS TEXTING ANY DIFFERENT FROM OTHER DISTRACTIONS, LIKE EATING OR PUTTING ON MAKEUP?
Again, stop and think about this. When you eat in the car, do you typically stare at your food for 30 seconds at a time or do you put the fries where you can easily reach them and pop them one at a time into your mouth without looking (hopefully you know where your mouth is without looking in the mirror...). Same with a drink - you don't have to look to find the cup holder and you can easily put the Starbucks to your lips. One hand is typically on the steering wheel at all times.

Makeup is a different matter. I think putting on makeup while trying to drive your car is just as dangerous as texting. You need to look at yourself while doing it, it takes one if not both hands (one to hold the compact the other to do the application) and it definitely takes longer than 30 seconds (and if it doesn't, why are you bothering?).

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There are a lot of distractions in a vehicle I won't even touch on - spouse, children, pets, radio... Anything besides a completely silent car with your eyes on the road, reviewing traffic through all your mirrors and keeping your hands at 10 and 2 is going to be "unsafe". Although, personally, I'm pretty sure that if *I* did everything perfectly all the time I would fall asleep at the wheel. :)

All they are saying with this law is that you need to really think about what you're doing while driving. Do you truly need to read that text that says "Whatssup?" and reply "nm. u?" while you're driving? In traffic? At 70 MPH?

If you're expecting a message that IS important and you get that happy notification signal, take a minute to pull off the road into a parking lot or even the shoulder and read it. Better yet, call the person you're expecting to message you and TALK to them. Or ask them to call you instead of text when you know you're jumping in the car.

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BTW, the law does exclude the following messaging activities:

• To receive an emergency, traffic, or weather alert message; 
• To receive a message related to the operation or navigation of the vehicle;
• To report current or ongoing illegal activity to law enforcement;
• To prevent imminent injury to a person or property

Although, if you're really doing any of these things, make a phone call! It'd be faster and probably guarantee better reception from law enforcement.
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There. I've had my say on the matter. I won't say I've been a good girl and never texted while operating my van. Usually, if I have to text something, I wait until I'm at a stop light or stop sign (this is now illegal too, BTW).

If this law simply gets more people to think a little more outside their own bubbles and live in the real world while driving their cars, I think it's fulfilled it's purpose.

My fear? There will be more "clandestine texting" (holding the phone below the window level instead of up where you can see road and phone) and it will cause more harm than good. I guess we'll see...

Cash for a Better Life

Did my subject draw you into this post? I'm hoping it did, but it might have given you the wrong idea - purposefully I admit. :)

Many of you have read previous posts of mine about how I help with The Ugly Christmas Sweater Party that benefits Operation Breakthrough. In this post, I simply want to tell you about that organization and how even a $10 donation can help them.

Put most simply and in their own words:

The mission of Operation Breakthrough is to help children who are living in poverty develop to their fullest potential by providing them a safe, loving and educational environment.

Operation Breakthrough cares each weekday for more than 600 children, ages 6 weeks to 18 years. More than 98% of the enrolled families live below the federal poverty guidelines, most far below them.

About 25% of the children are homeless or near homeless, living in battered women's or homeless shelters or transitional living programs. Often they sleep on the sofas of friends or relatives, sometimes even living in cars, rundown hotels or abandoned buildings. About 25% of our children are in foster care or other placements due to abuse, neglect or other family crises. The average income of our families is $9,400.

You can read more on their website. It truly is a wonderful KANSAS CITY organization that helps KANSAS CITY children who are dealing with a situation that is NOT their fault.

Our Gifts Make a Difference! $10 will buy a book for their library. $20 will buy new shoes for a child. $50 will buy groceries for a family of 4. $85 will cover a complete physical for an uninsured child. $100 will buy a pair of eyeglasses. $150 will cover care for an infant for a week. $500 will cover a field trip for 50 children to a museum or theater performance. $1,000 will cover 80 hours of individual therapy for a child suffering from abuse or neglect.

Personally, my "Skipping Starbucks" savings will be going to Operation Breakthrough again this year. My donation will probably be around $100. That simple donation could provide a child with the eyeglasses needed to do better in school. Or it could give 5 children new shoes for winter when they may otherwise not have correct apparel.

YOU, too, can skip eating out a few times this month or skip the expensive coffee or just skip a date night. Will spending money on any of those items make as big an impact in your life as these items will make in theirs?

If ten of us could each give $100 that combined donation could provide a child with the therapy needed to overcome a tragic event in their life. The thought that we could help a child so profoundly with such a simple gift truly moves me to tears and I hope it affects you too.

Please consider making a donation to them this season or at any time during the year. It does a heart good! :)

Conversations with Kids

RETIREMENT PLAN FROM THOMAS
A recent car conversation went like this...

• Travis: Do artists make a lot of money?
• Mom: Sometimes. Depends on what they paint or make.
• Thomas: Really? That could be good. I like art.
• Mom: It's a lot of work. And sometimes you don't become famous and people don't buy the art until after you die.
• (long pause where you could hear the wheels turning in their heads)
• Thomas: ok, I have it. I'll do a regular job and then when I'm 99 I'll become an artist really fast, get famous cuz I'll die soon and then my grandkids will have lots of money! Everyone should do this!

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ACRONYMS WITH TRAVIS
Travis wanted to figure out the meanings to some acronyms that he's heard recently. Here's some of the best 8-year-old answers he gave before we told him the real meanings:

• SWAT = Sweet Weapons and Tactics (he knows it's Special, but he prefers Sweet)
• CSI = Criminal Science Animals (yeah, he can't spell very well yet...)
• NCIS = National Crime In Science
• CIA = Crimes In America
• NASA = No Air in Space Association
• USPS = Daddy's Work!
• KSU = K-State University (but he couldn't tell us what the K was for...)

Once we explained the K in KSU was for Kansas, we of course asked, "If K is for Kansas, what is KU for?" And this garnered our absolute favorite answer...

KU is for Suckers!

I kid you not, no prep or coercion. He just KNOWS! :)

Skipping Starbucks Challenge 2010

I hereby offer up the Skipping Starbucks challenge again (read this: 2008 Skipping Starbucks post). I think Skipping Starbucks and donating the cash will do more good than drinking there this month.

You say, "I don't drink Starbucks or any coffee!"? You can still participate! Pick ANY where you go regularly (at least 1x per week) and skip it this month. Then, select a charity and donate what you would have spent there.

Two years ago, my coffee consumption made for a $50 donation to Operation Breakthrough. That's approximately 10 times I skipped the expensive coffee and gave to someone less fortunate than myself.

Can you do the same this year? Consider the gauntlet thrown at your feet...